My hopes and dreams for Toddler H becoming a big sister

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There is nothing better than cuddles with my baby. I love that I’m there for every cuddle she needs. Every tear and every smile, I’m there. She had a nap yesterday at 4pm which she needed, surprised me, it’s something which never actually happens and it screwed up bed time, obviously. But I could just sit there in the car and let her sleep for a bit. It was lovely. I know that will change when Baby #2 arrives. I know Baby #2, your sister, is going to be a huge change for us as a family, and on my innocent baby girl becoming a big sister. 

For two years I’ve been able to give my baby whatever she needs right there and then. I really do wonder what will happen when Baby #2 arrives this summer.

Toddler H, I wonder what will happen when perhaps you can’t get that cuddle instantly, when you want something NOW, when you’re  hungry and have to wait, or just want to play hide and seek (in your hilarious toddler way of coming to find us and shouting BOOOOO every time). Will it be me feeling terrible for not being there as before, or will it be you? Will you start tantruming more or will you understand? I don’t have a magic ball, I can’t predict the future; I don’t know how this huge change will actually effect you. I do know that until then, I’ll make the most of my cuddles with my baby. I’ll take more photos of you, and us. I’ll be there for you, you’re still my baby. Soon, my phone won’t just be filled with capturing your every moment, you’ll have competition. Already you love hugging ‘baby’ (my ever growing bump), you’ll kiss bump and say “sorry baby” within milliseconds of nudging me (not even close to baby). You say “mummy baby cuddles” and hug my bump. You love to hug me, and pat bump, saying “baby baby” or tell me to “shhhhhh” if I’m unloading the dishwasher too noisily because “baby asleep, mummy, shhhhhh“. You’re caring and gentle. You really are understanding. But I doubt you understand the huge impact baby will have on your life.

As much as there is all this uncertainty flying around my head, I’m excited, full of hopes and dreams for Toddler H and her sister. Yes, I might miss capturing her moments, the silly things she does, the giggles and the sweet things. But instead, I’ll capture a bond between sisters. I’ll see you transform, becoming a big sister. I’ll see a bond between siblings, a bond I see in my friends’ children, a cute, caring, protective bond, a bond I hope never breaks. Yes, I know they’ll fight and bicker, I have a sister too.

I dream about them being best friends, thick as thieves. Having a bond, which I dream is tight and strong; never-ending. I hope that they both have their ever present playmate. I hope they’re like twins, just two years apart. I hope they confide in each other; provide a conscience for each other. I hope they share and play with each other’s friends. I hope they like the same things. I hope they do well in life, are kind, good friends, nice people, and above all are happy. I hope they provide us with even more joy and laughter than ever. I really hope that hubby and I can watch the two of them bickering, and smile, knowing in two minutes they’ll be skipping off together to play.

Above all, I hope they will look after each other, love each other and know they are so so lucky to be sisters. To my baby, Toddler H,  you won’t be my baby forever, you’re becoming a big sister. I also know that before long it might be you, my baby girl, that your little sister seeks for comfort; it might not be me, and I’ll have to be ok with that. But for now, I’ll take every cuddle with you that I can get.

How did you feel before baby #2 arrived? Did you have similar sibling hopes and fears? 
Lynne X

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    MMT
    February 9, 2017 at 8:35 pm

    Ah this is so lovely hun. You don’t need to worry, I promise it’ll all be fine. Things will change, for sure, but only for the better. I didn’t know it’s a girl! So exciting!
    I don’t know if you’ve ever read my having a second baby post, but it answers alot of the concerns you’ve written about here, from the other side πŸ˜‰
    xxx
    Thanks for sharing with #coolmumclub
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    Honest Mum
    February 9, 2017 at 11:18 pm

    Try not to worry, I know it’s hard but love multiplies from you and between siblings and things will work out just fine x

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    Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons
    February 10, 2017 at 11:37 am

    The second pregnancy is so full of conflicting feelings. I love having a toddler around to share everything with, and seeing him so exciting about the baby is just the absolute best thing. But at the same time I totally understand the worry about how they’re going to adapt to not being number 1 anymore. I’m sure it’ll come as a shock at first, but I know how great it was for me to grow up with a sister and I’m sure it will be the same for my son too. I’m sure Toddler H will be the best big sister – she sounds so cute (and so considerate of not kicking / nudging the baby – I wish my son was as careful!) Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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    thishappenedtometoday (Michelle)
    February 10, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    Lovely post, I felt exactly the same. I felt very sad actually before my son arrived (probably the hormones!) that mine and my daughters relationship would change, it was strange, you are gaining something amazing but also losing something.
    Sometimes is was hard at the beginning but they (and you) get used to it and I can’t tell you how much my heart fills with joy when my kids play together πŸ™‚ (now 4.5 and 21 months). Good Luck xx #coolmumclub

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    Katy - Hot Pink Wellingtons
    February 10, 2017 at 12:40 pm

    A second pregnancy is such a conflict of emotions. I’ve loved sharing it all with my toddler, and I think that’s been the best thing this time around – watching his excitement, hearing him talk to the baby, and want to touch the bump all the time. But at the same time you’re so conscious that when the baby arrives you won’t have the time for them that they’ve been used to and you can’t help but worry about that. But I’m sure they’ll adapt quickly and it’ll all be worth it to see the relationship develop between the two siblings. Thanks for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove

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    Claire
    February 13, 2017 at 9:15 am

    I imagine it must be tricky. But they’ll be best friends! #bigpinklink
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    Laura - Dear Bear and Beany
    February 13, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    I adore seeing my girls together and watching their relationship grow over the last two years has been a privilege to watch. When I was pregnant with my second daughter, I was so excited that Alice was going to be a big sister. It was a role that she was born to do, she is a natural big sister. The love they have for each other is so special. Thank you for joining us at #SharingtheBlogLove
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    Agent Spitback
    February 13, 2017 at 10:11 pm

    Oh, what a lovely post. I remembered worrying about these same feelings when I was pregnant with my #2 but like you say, it is a beautiful experience watching the bond between siblings. Your love expands and so will your toddler. Soon, you can’t imagine what was life when there was just one. Lots of big group cuddles to come. Thank you for sharing with #bigpinklink
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    Heather Keet
    February 14, 2017 at 6:38 am

    I adore my siblings, I hope yours get along as equally wonderfully. Sure, we tried to murder each other once or twice over a Monopoly board game, but those are the things you laugh about as adults. #bigpinklink

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